''WHY HE DIDN'T MARRY YOU...'' PART 1

You have been seeing this guy or you were just friends, then suddenly he got engaged and tied the knot with another woman...You are shocked and dumbfounded...Why didn't he marry me? But there are reasons why a man would end up not marrying you. Let's talk about them.

1. HIS FAMILY SAID NO

One of the major reasons why a guy won't marry you is when the family says NO. You might think love should make him disobey them but dearies, It is not that easy...He would only fight it if he has people on his side; a brother or mother on his side but whereby he is the only one, then a serious red flag is up. If he marries you, he would be an enemy of his own family and you would not like that either. Moreover, most marriages with so much drama and bad exchange of words thrown into it before it kicks off barely last. Do not blame him for saying NO.

2. YOU ARE OVER 30

Sad as it is, a spade must be called a spade...While a man's age may not overly matter in marriages; a lady's age does. This is because, medically a lady's chances to conceive is on the downward, so if you are 35, It means your chances are slimmer...No wonder most ladies settle down in their 20s...So he left because you were over 30 and if you are in your 20s reading this, please take your chances with a matured mind because it actually gets tougher as you grow older...and if you are over 30, do not lose hope. The fact is some men are ready to take that risk with you while others will not..Be hopeful baby.

3. YOU DO NOT RESPECT HIM

I believe no man will marry a disrespectful woman. Even if he is a truck pusher or a bus conductor, he needs you to respect him..If a woman finds it difficult to say good morning, then getting married will be difficult. A man does not need you to worship him...He only needs you to respect him..Keeping the simple rules can save you...like not talking when he is talking, not walking out on him, shouting and nagging at the top of your voice...not taking simple instructions or corrections. Once you respect a man, you are 50% likely to be his bride...So he did not marry you and now you know why!.

4. YOU COULD NOT KEEP HIS HOME

Every man believes a woman should be able to keep the home, make the house clean, sweep and tidy the bedroom. How your man's friends know you came is actually the state of his apartment after your visit...A man is actually also responsible for his clean home but a woman always have that extra touch...So, If his place becomes worse when you are around or far better in your absence...babe, forget it, you are not walking down the aisle with him. Every man wants and desires a complete woman. He knows his mum kept his father's house well and he expects the same from you as well. He did not marry you because you are dirty. Please change today!

5. YOU CANNOT COOK

So you did not know how to cook...your mum did not teach you...and you did not learn from your friends. He left you because you could not cook. All you prepare is noodles and eggs...the same one he prepares while you were away....Absolute No...There should be a difference...next time, learn to mesmerize your man with delicacies. Go to a culinary school if you need to and do not waste away because a man needs a woman who can cook...remember, that is one of the major roads to his heart.

6. YOUR CLASS WAS TOO HIGH

So you are the Governor's daughter and met your man while he is farming in the village. You loved his muscles and bravery...overly manly, caring and you got talking and became friends. This was not a movie. You would have loved him to be the one but your class is way too high...He likes you but he will not marry you because he does not want to worship you nor your family as he will love to express himself easily. you will need to find a class not too far from yours. While a classy man can marry anybody, a woman from a wealthy home finds it very difficult...For it to ever work, the woman must be willing to bring up the man to her class and that is some hardwork because many ladies would not want to go that route.

7. YOU WANT HIM TO JOIN YOUR CHURCH

So you told your man to join your church or forget you...and he chose the latter. If we take the clock back to the 90s, I am quite sure a lot of our aunties would change the decision they took as many women suffered the church choice ignorance. He is an Anglican and I am a Roman Catholic...and so they insist he must change to my church...and many got old at home because of their ignorance. You are a Christian and If your man is a Christian, Please follow him because he may be your last chance of getting married. Do not act foolishly. A man is the head of the house and If he is a good Christian and you can vouch for his good character, then you should say yes. If you push him away, then blame no one when you remain a spinster. Be wise!

''WHEN YOU LOSE YOUR PHYSIQUE...''

May be you just gave birth or got carried away with friends drinking and merrying for months and then it dawned on you that your body has changed...gaining so much weight and added 10kg or more. What do you do...? Your clothes are no more your size and you feel lazy, weak and unhappy about your current weight...Do you sit back and watch it deteriorate or do you take the bull by the horns...? I advise you do the latter. Below is what you should do :

1. QUIT THOSE HABITS 

 The first thing you need to do is to quit those deadly habits. You can't eat your cake and have it.Somethings just have to go...the excessive repeated evening beer drinking must go...the fast food daily pastries poaching must go...the gluttony habit must go...the lazy inactive weeks without exercise must go...excessive sexual acts that drains your stamina should go...we can go on and on but this is the first step. Nothing works without letting go of the habits that brought you to your current undesirable situation.

2. CULTIVATE GOOD HABITS

Now that you have swept away the bad habits for real, It's time to cultivate new ones. Good is the opposite of bad, so all you need to do is adjust to the opposite side...drink more water rather than beer, go to the gym in the evenings rather than lounge with friends, slow down on your sexual activities rather than every day three-round sessions, eat clean and healthy rather than junks. It sounds easy right? It is not...good things are certainly not easy to come by but If you want your good physique back, you will have to do what needs to be done...There is no magic wand...No cutting corners and please, no surgeries...Be determined and cultivate good habits.

3. HAVE A FITNESS PROGRAM

So you have gotten rid of your old habits and cultivated good ones...What else do you do? Choose and design your fitness program and endeavor to stick with it. You may ask yourself how do I get a routine that works for me...? I will reveal the secret to you...The program that works for you are those fitness programs you dislike the most...Yes, ''those fitness programs you never liked''..lol.
Our body is silly, usually, our bodies run away from anything that will make it better. If you dislike weight programs, then you know it's weight programs you actually need...same goes for running. I used to dislike barbell bench pull over a lot..infact, I hated it but I discovered it's the best exercise for my body. So choose your program wisely..With this secret in mind, you are not far away from your desired goal.

4. KEEP DOING IT

Now that you got rid of your bad habits, cultivated good and new habits, got a fitness program..what is next...? Keep doing it! There is no exit point in keeping fit...Once you stop, you start drifting away..So whatever program you have, just keep doing it till you fall in love with it. Once you fall in love with a program, only then are you allowed to change it. This is because you now love it and the effect will not be massive anymore...Our body is quite tricky you know...Never be discouraged If you start a program and you see no positive sign in weeks. You might need to wait for months, It all depends on our bodies and how messed up it was before you kicked off. So do not expect a magical transformation...that Tyson Beckford's hot body or Kim Kardashian's curves will come in months.

 Stick with your goal...Keep doing it and when you get your desired result, do not hesitate to share with us. Mail iamizuchukwu@gmail.com.Let us know what your issues are...Now, go and get that hot sizzling body back!

TOP 8 BILLBOARD ADVERTS THAT BLEW US AWAY.

Over the years, there has been billboard adverts that blew our minds and It was not just about the campaign but the talent of the model behind it...So, today, we are going to flash you top 8 billboard adverts that caught many hearts and the models behind it...Let's talk about them...

1. DELTA SOAP- SANDRA UCHE OKAGBUE

Our numero uno on the chart is the undeniably pretty Sandra Okagbue who rocked the Delta Soap billboard. It was so fascinating that many of us started using Delta Soap just to look like her...News had it that her billboard was removed from the 3rd Mainland Bridge in Lagos because it was causing lots of accident...people keep looking instead of driving. We do not know whether to call her ''Mrs. Flavour Okoli'' or not but she is gorgeous and Mr. Flavour should put a ring on  that finger already.lol

2.HERO BEER ADVERT - MELVIN ORJI

He is an advert King and that's what friends call him. You can beat him in  the ring but he would floor you when it comes to adverts;billboards or television. This back to back commercial model of the year winner has rocked billboards ranging from MTN, Nexus and banks but the work that melted his female fans was his Hero Beer Advert. Its is very captivating and his manly looks killed it.No wonder ladies now ask their men to take Hero!

3. LUX SOAP ADVERT - GENEVIEVE NNAJI

Our very own screen goddess, Genevieve blew our minds when she landed her Lux Soap endorsement deal and when the billboard was produced, we were all shocked and pondered if she would continue as a model and forget acting. Genevieve slays in pictures and we loved her Lux Advert billboard.

4. GLO ADVERT(RULE YOUR WORLD) - SUPERMODEL PELUMI

This is one of the best advert ever shot in Nigeria and photographed by the iconic professional himself, Kelechi Amadi-Obi. We cannot forget this work in a hurry. Pelumi took 2nd place in Mr.Nigeria 2007 which was won by Bryan Okwara. Pelumi does not kill it alone in imagery but has one of the best bodies in the industry. We think Globacom and other telecom brands should go back and use models for their campaigns.


5. HOLLANDIA ADVERT - OMOTOLA JALADE EKEINDE

If only Omotola contested for most beautiful girl in Nigeria in her 20s, I really doubt her not clinching the crown. Omosexy as we call her is extremely gorgeous and very few beauty queens can match her beauty and so when Hollandia Yoghurt billboard came out, we were blown away. It was a road stopper and we could not stop loving it.

6. GULDER ADVERT - EBUKA OBI UCHENDU

How do we describe this bundle of talent...? Perhaps a book titled; The rise and rise of Ebuka. This Television personality and one time Big Brother Nigeria housemate has many talents including the body and face of a supermodel...and so we were not surprised when his Gulder billboard came out on major highways across the nation. Ebuka slays any day. People love the campaign and we think Nigerian Breweries made the right choice...by the way, this hot bloke has been officially taken off the grocery store and not single anymore...sorry Ladies! he got married early this year.

7. DELTA SOAP ADVERT - LILIAN BACH

This diva was the first Delta Soap face before the likes of Sandra Okagbue came on board. Her billboard was the cynosure of all eyes as we could not take our eyes off them. She was a billboard Queen and made every Ad campaign look daring and effortless.

8. GUINNESS ADVERT - JOSEPH AGOSSA

He is tall, dark and handsome...Ladies describe him as a tall glass of chocolate milk and we do agree with them. When this African Prince contested for Mr. Nigeria 2011, we all thought it would be no competition unfortunately, he did not win but finished 4th runner up. Agossa's Guinness billboard is breathtaking. He rocked it and even Michael Power should be proud of him.

So there you have it, Our Top 8 billboard adverts that blew us away..Feel free to drop a comment and perhaps you have an opinion about out Top 8.

''WHEN YOU FORGET YOURSELF...''

This is a very crucial topic...what really happens when you forget yourself?...Heartbreaks, disaster, suicide thoughts, frustration, bitterness, failure and so on sets in...Yet a lot of people have forgotten themselves in that relationship, marriage, family, church, job and so on. I remember what they tell us during a pageant competition...''Be Yourself''...we have heard it countless times but yet many do not understand what it really means...by being yourself...then you ask yourself what do they mean? I am myself already..lol..That line is a deep one because being yourself means doing those things your own way, setting your own path, following your own techniques, exploring your own gifts and talents. It means standing out and being unique...Simply  being YOU.

We are all human but different people. We have got our own ways, we do not talk the same way, we do not smile the same way, we do not walk the same way...Even the Supermodels on the runway who are well groomed on catwalk still do not walk the same way...Oh Yes...Tyra Banks, Naomi Campbell and Oluchi Orlandi do not have the same walk. If you are in doubt, take a critical look at their runway videos. Do you know that great footballers like Messi and Ronaldo also have different techniques that separates them?...You entered that marriage, that relationship, that job and forgot your uniqueness...Remember the man saw you because you were different.

Have you forgotten how you exercise? Have you forgotten how you bake cakes and sell to your friends to make more money...? You became someone else entirely after marriage and you think it will last...? Hell No...It has already crashed because such do not last. Some ladies even forget their dreams, aspirations of even working in the world bank or perhaps owning the best boutique in the nation just to follow a man and shower him with love and care as a housewife...My dear, you are on a ''longgggg thing''...I am not advising you to be disobedient to your spouse nor have no plans together...I am saying to you ''do not lose your own uniqueness, your own ideas, your dreams''...because those are the spices you need for your relationship to work.

There is nothing as boring as dating someone that is an ''Oh Yes'' candidate...lol...It means anything goes...They do not have their own say, anything you say is what they do; forgetting that those arguments, discussions and plans makes the relationship solid. So do you really want your marriage to work? Do you want to keep that man? Do you want to be happy?...If you really and truly want all these, then..."Never you forget yourself''.

WELCOME TO ''LET'S TALK ABOUT IT''...

I am so happy to introduce my blog ''Let's Talk About It''. You might be wondering...''Let's talk about what...?''. We will be talking about everything...I mean everything that could affect our lives and make us better, happy and inspired. From Entertainment, Sports, Sex, Health, Politics, Events and even Relationships.

I am so excited and am certain we will enjoy this journey together...Some years ago, I was an editor for a Magazine company and wrote lots of articles...They were really good...Rather than bury this talent, I thought it's wise to explore it by bringing in write ups that would be of benefit to us all.

So make it a regular date by visiting Let's Talk About It. izuchukwutalks.blogspot.com says you are welcome.

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