''WHEN YOU FORGET YOURSELF...''

This is a very crucial topic...what really happens when you forget yourself?...Heartbreaks, disaster, suicide thoughts, frustration, bitterness, failure and so on sets in...Yet a lot of people have forgotten themselves in that relationship, marriage, family, church, job and so on. I remember what they tell us during a pageant competition...''Be Yourself''...we have heard it countless times but yet many do not understand what it really means...by being yourself...then you ask yourself what do they mean? I am myself already..lol..That line is a deep one because being yourself means doing those things your own way, setting your own path, following your own techniques, exploring your own gifts and talents. It means standing out and being unique...Simply  being YOU.

We are all human but different people. We have got our own ways, we do not talk the same way, we do not smile the same way, we do not walk the same way...Even the Supermodels on the runway who are well groomed on catwalk still do not walk the same way...Oh Yes...Tyra Banks, Naomi Campbell and Oluchi Orlandi do not have the same walk. If you are in doubt, take a critical look at their runway videos. Do you know that great footballers like Messi and Ronaldo also have different techniques that separates them?...You entered that marriage, that relationship, that job and forgot your uniqueness...Remember the man saw you because you were different.

Have you forgotten how you exercise? Have you forgotten how you bake cakes and sell to your friends to make more money...? You became someone else entirely after marriage and you think it will last...? Hell No...It has already crashed because such do not last. Some ladies even forget their dreams, aspirations of even working in the world bank or perhaps owning the best boutique in the nation just to follow a man and shower him with love and care as a housewife...My dear, you are on a ''longgggg thing''...I am not advising you to be disobedient to your spouse nor have no plans together...I am saying to you ''do not lose your own uniqueness, your own ideas, your dreams''...because those are the spices you need for your relationship to work.

There is nothing as boring as dating someone that is an ''Oh Yes'' candidate...lol...It means anything goes...They do not have their own say, anything you say is what they do; forgetting that those arguments, discussions and plans makes the relationship solid. So do you really want your marriage to work? Do you want to keep that man? Do you want to be happy?...If you really and truly want all these, then..."Never you forget yourself''.